Monday 22nd January 2007by benandbethany
Today is our 54th day in Taiwan. Our visitor visas are only good for 60 days so we had to get them renewed. Fortunately it didn’t cost any money. It did cost a lot of time though and finally after about 6 hours, spanning two days, we accomplished our mission and now have official permission to stay in Taiwan until March 30th.
Our conspicuous family got a lot of looks from the waiting room crowd at the visa center. To their credit, there really wasn’t anything more interesting in the austere, white walled room than two waiguoren with a local baobei. The first day we were there an older woman kept circling us, then finally asked us why Violet’s hair is black and ours isn’t. Today, I heard a half dozen lingyang‘s (adopted) followed by knowing nods.
When I’m out and alone with Violet I often get approached by locals whose first question is usually if Violet is a boy or a girl. This never ceases to surprise me since she is almost always decked out in pink (even though I really wanted to avoid the whole pink only wardrobe). I have heard about many parents in the US getting the same question about daughters in dresses so I know it is a global phenomenon. Anyway, after asking if she is my daughter, the strangers always make the comment “she must look like her father”. I go ahead and tell them that we are adopting Violet. The response is almost always “lucky baby” which I always follow with a “we’re the lucky ones”.
I still don’t know how I’m going to handle questions from the general public about our family when we are home. I do know that I will always honor Violet’s privacy regarding details of her birthfamily’s situation.
Above is video from our time yesterday at the Taichung Folklore Park. Rhonda was so nice to take us! It’s really beautiful and I recommend visiting it if you’re ever in the area. We’re rubbing the handles of a water filled bowl in a vain effort to try to get the water to jump. If anyone out there knows more about the bowl rubbing tradition, please shed some light on it for us!